Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Crackin' Up

The joys of being around my little girls all day.

Today K (6 months) was playing on her play mat and what squeaking up a storm, it storm became obvious to me what she was doing. She was trying to get her sister S (4) to look at her. As soon as S would look at her K would start laughing. Then S would look away and the squeaking continued till S looked at her again.

I was watching this interplay take place and talking to K I said "You sure are cracking yourself up, aren't you.?" Well S doesn't know what "Cracking up" is so she asked. I told her it was laughing and being silly. So she started laughing and then K was watching her and laughing. S turned to me and said Mommy I want you to Crack up too. So I started laughing then she said "All Daddy's Girls are Cracking up." By then I was really cracking up.

Hope you have something making you crack up today.

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

It's What You Gotta Do

Again it has been a while since I posted. I had this great plan to make Mondays "Marriage Mondays" and all my Monday posts would be on marriage. Well for the last 2 weeks I have been unavailable on Mondays to write a post. I do have a list of topics I'll cover at some point but not today.

The reason I was unavailable to Blog this Monday was due to a family need.

This Saturday my sisters dog went missing from a camp in the woods. He was missing for around 24 hours. During that time my sister was so sad and worried about him and I had to go be with her. So I packed up both my girls and had everything loaded in the car when we got word that the dog had been found. But I figured since I had already gone through the process of packing and loading the car, we might as well go anyway (it is about a 3 hour drive to where my family is). So I took the girls and we went. That was Sunday. Monday was my sisters Birthday so we got to celebrate with her and that was a blessing. She also got to see her 2 nieces and it had been a while .

Another blessing I got was to see my grandparents (and likewise they got to see their great-granddaughters). One of my Grandfathers went in for a hip replacement on Tuesday so we got to spend some time with him before his operation. My mom took the day "off" on Tuesday to go be with my Grandmother while she waited at the hospital for his surgery to be done.

So what is the point of my family "dramas" over the last week? The point is sometimes you just do what you gotta do for family. While I was sitting around worrying about my sister I asked my husband what I should do and he said "Let's go." Well he ended up staying since we both though it wouldn't make much difference to my sister either way. My mom took a day off, knowing she wouldn't get paid wand would have to make the work up on her evenings and weekends, to be with her family cause It's What You Gotta Do.

Remember that you family is important and when it comes to your family some times doing what you have to do isn't the easiest thing, the cheapest thing, the most enjoyable thing or the thing you would do, but it is what you should do. So a trip to visit my family ended up being a great few days for me and the girls and B got some extra work around the house done. I guess that is what they call a Win-Win.

Friday, May 20, 2011

The End of the World

Well according to Harold Camping, this will be my last blog. I don't know, and that's all I can say. I will never know when my last blog will come. It may come because I loose interest, it may come because I have nothing left to say or it may come because I get to go home. Either way I don't know when it will be.

But if you have watched TV this week or listened to the radio you have probably heard that the world (according to Camping) is going to end tomorrow.

It makes me a little angry to hear Camping's claim especially since this is not the first time he has claimed this (he made at least one more claim in 1994 that the world was going to end then) and we are still here. No one knows when the end will come. I would guess probably not tomorrow, or I at least wouldn't bet on tomorrow based on Camping's calculations. I think with all the people who have spent their life studying the Bible that if there was enough evidence in the Bible that May 21, 2011 was the end of the world then more than just Camping would be saying it. However, claims like this I feel bring discredit to the followers of Jesus and that is something I don't want to do. Christian's and non-Christian's have analyzed what is in the Bible looking for answers to these questions and if there was a "date" in there I figure it probably would have been "found" by now. In fact the Bible says:
      
"However, no one know the day or the hour when these things will happen, not even the angels in heaven or the Son himself. Only the Father knows." (Matthew 24:36)

Those are Jesus' own words so if Jesus is saying no one knows I'm going to believe Him. But Jesus also said that "Two men will be working together in the field; one will be taken, the other left. Two women will be grinding flour at the mill; one will be taken, the other left. So be prepared, because you don't know what day your Lord is coming." (Matthew 24:40-42)

Well I don't want anyone that I know to be the person left. So be prepared, and if I can help you prepare let me know. I would love to show you how you can "be prepared" and best be like a boy scout ALWAYS prepared because "...the Son of Man will come when least expected" (Matthew 24:44).

As a follower of Jesus, I know that when the end of the world comes this blog will be un-manned.

Thursday, May 19, 2011

Open Wide

It has been a long time, I apologize for that. We lost internet connection for about 4 days and then I found other ways to fill my days then sitting at the computer. It has rained a lot for the last few days but this afternoon the clouds parted and there was blue sky and sunshine. I took advantage of that to plant some flowers that were bought last weekend when my parents were visiting. I happened to like being off line in some ways but sure missed it in a few others.

So today was a big mile stone in our daughter S' life. She had her first visit to the dentist and did so amazingly well. I had been dreading this trip for a while and when I went for my appointment yesterday I knew I had to set up hers they had a cancelation for this morning so we took it. I thought I would be too soon for her but when I told her she was going she got all excited and was so proud. She even ran into the building, and I had to remind her to walk inside, she was so excited. She sat through exam and let them do everything they needed to. Her teeth looked great and NO cavities. Now she is on to the every 6 months for the rest of her life schedule I guess.

It was a big step for her and I was so proud. Then of course came time to check out and the bill. Without insurance $125.00 to scrape of a very little bit of plack, polish her teeth floss and have the dentist look at them. I guess when the open enrolment comes up again we will be putting her on our dental plan.

Her favorite part of the whole day was meeting, Mr. Thirsty (the little spit sucker), Mr. Windy (the water/air squirter), and Mr. Spiny (the polisher). I'm such a proud mommy right now.

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Mother's Day?

Well you maybe thinking Mother's Day? Aren't you a little late for that. Well... Yes Mother's Day was a few days ago. However, I took Sunday off from blogging to spend with my family and well today is a special day too. Today is my mother's birthday and it frequently falls on Mother's Day so I figured I would celebrate Mother's Day in cyberspace today.

Mommy and S
This is my 3rd official Mother's Day but 4 years ago I was pregnant with our 1st daughter (S for short). I remember being so sad that I was only pregnant so close to Mother's Day and not actually a mom yet. I have come to realize that I was a mom then. People wished me a happy Mother's Day that year and I didn't get it. I didn't realize that my life had already changed, I was already a Mother.

Now I get it! From the moment that the pregnancy test says Positive you are a mom. There is a life coming into your world and no matter what the outcome that life will effect your life. For some people the outcome is joyful, for some it is totally scary, for others it may even end in heartbreak. I have been lucky to have 2 joyful outcomes (what some wouldn't do to have that blessing).

My first joy came on June 3rd 2007 when our 1st daughter S was born. She weighed 6lbs 2oz and was 19.5" She was a little peanut and everything during the pregnancy and deliver went smoothly. Our second blessing was our daughter K born December 4th 2010 at 5lbs 7oz and 19." She was our little miracle, after a rather scary entrance into the world.

Mommy and K
Her deliver was complicated at the end by what we latter learned was a very short umbilical chord. Her heart rate was dropping dangerously low and the Dr and nurses were worried to say the least. But the Dr looked me right in the eye and said "we are going to get this baby out NOW! Push!" I foolishly said "but I'm not having a contraction" (you are normally supposed to push with contractions). The Dr said "I know push anyway" Well 4 pushes and less then 5 minutes latter she was out and crying. I didn't get to hold her right away as there was a team of Drs and nurses that had been summonsed to the room to check her out. An hour latter I got to hold her and she was perfect. It was scary but God held her and delivered her to my arms safely. I look at her and see the miracle she is and thank God for her everyday.

I am so blessed to be the mom of two beautiful girls. I never thought I would have a girl let alone two and I couldn't ask for more.


Happy Birthday to my mom without whom these two precious girls wouldn't be here, and Happy Mother's day to all the moms who read this.

Monday, May 9, 2011

Love Tank?... What's That?


Photo By: Salvatore Vuono
Well in my last post I, in passing, used the term "Love Tank." It sort of dawned on me after the fact that while "Love Tank" is a common expression used in our home it might not be a term you are familiar with. First I must give credit where it is due... "Love Tank" is not a term we made up ourselves. We read it in a book by Dr. Gary Chapman called "The Five Love Languages"here is a link to his website for more information.

We read this book about 4-5 years ago and it has changed our marriage. There have 2 events in our short (6.5 years) marriage that have changed it forever and this was the second (I'll comment on the other one at some point but not today). One struggle we had for a long time in our dating and early marriage relationship was not knowing how to keep each other happy. I will be honest and say it was mostly me. B (that's what I'll call my husband) is pretty good about keeping up at least a front of being happy but me on the other hand had no problems letting him know when I wasn't happy.

Up until we read this book he didn't really know how to help keep me "balanced" for lack of a better word. He has described the change as "before I just learned how to weather the storms, now I know how to keep the storms at bay." He literally used to just rid out the "storms," as he calls them, and wait till I was in a better mood. Now he know the warning signs (I guess when gray clouds start to roll in), and can be proactive in clearing the forecast.

See Dr. Chapman's book describes 5 "love languages," Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts and  Acts of Service, and says that everyone has a primary and usually a secondary love language. It is how you are shown love. For me my primary love language is Quality Time, hence why just walking around a town wide garage sale talking and being with my husband and family filled my love tank. My secondary is physical touch. B's Primary is Physical Touch and Words of Affirmation are his secondary.

One other big idea from Dr. Chapman's book is the concept that you show love, usually, in the same ways as you receive it. Well in our case that wasn't true. B thought he was showing me he loved me by doing the dishes, taking out the trash, helping fold the laundry, making me breakfast in bed (everyday when I was working), warming up my car for me, making my lunch. You might be thinking and you didn't think he loved you? Well I thought the same thing too. I though "what is wrong with me that I can't see how much this guy must love me. But still I had and empty love tank.

B shows love by Acts of Service (even though it isn't even a primary or secondary love language for him). Since we have learned each others love languages B knows that it's important to sit next to me and watch a movie or spend a day driving around to look at houses we like and comment on what we would like our next house to look like. That quality time fills my love tank. He still makes me breakfast, does dishes and takes out the trash but he knows that wont keep the storms at bay.

We also realized that since we both share Physical touch (and physical touch doesn't always mean intimate touch) as a love language (B's primary, my secondary) that his love tank was staying much fuller than mine naturally. I still have to make a very conscious effort to work on keeping his love tank full.

So I challenge you... Do you know your love language? Do you know your spouses? What about your Kids (Yup they have a love tank too)? If you don't Dr. Chapmans website has test to help determine them. You may be surprised at how big an impact this can make on really any of your relationships. Just like a cars gas tank you can't run on the fumes for long without having major engine problems, so fill those love tanks and keep 'em over flowing!

Saturday, May 7, 2011

Stuff Shoping

It was a full day here. We walked probably 3 miles round trip through the quaint streets of Altamont, NY at their town wide garage sale (complete with BBQ).

I don't know why but apparently no one had 6-9 month girl clothes, though I did find lots of clothes for our older daughter. I love having clothes I can send her outside to play in and really not care what she comes back in looking like.

We also found a few little toys for the older one as well. Our baby doesn't know what she is missing so we didn't get her any new toys, just a cute pair of shoes with little daises on them.

After all that there was a trip to Home Depot to buy some lawn care stuff. Over the past few years our lawn has been getting worse it is over run with dandelions, crabgrass, wild violet, and clover. Not to even mention the moles that are feasting on the copious amounts of grubs. It is going to take a while but hopefully it will start to look better soon.

I love days like these, spending quality time with the family really fills my love tank. My husband probably could have though of all kinds of things he would rather have done on a nice sunny Saturday but instead he pushed the stroller all around looking at garage sales with me. So now my love tank is nice a full, and I think he knows that a full love tank usually benefits him more than checking off projects on his to do list.

Friday, May 6, 2011

A little conversation

The conversation went like this:
  "I love you" (me to our 5 month old)
  "Ahh waaav oooo" (our 5 month old)
  "Oh yeah, you love me"
  "Eaaaa"

Okay I know she didn't really say it but it really sounded like it. She is such a cute little talker, these are the moments you never want to forget when you are mom.

There are times I know that I miss out on these little moments and I kick myself for that. It is something I strive to better about myself as a mom. I have the overwhelming honor, privilege and ability to be a stay at home mom and I would hate myself if I thought I didn't take full advantage of it.

It is hard to believe just 4 short years ago I was teaching and was worried about "giving up" my career to be a stay at home mom. Now I can't imagine trading anything for it. I know a mom who recently had to go back to work (her choice) after he baby was born and she seemed happy about it (though of course she was going to miss her baby girl) but it made me so sad to think about leaving my kids all day with someone else.

I hope you aren't reading this thinking. She hates moms who go back to work, or she thinks they are doing something wrong by leaving her kids with a responsible adult (family member, daycare etc...), that is not what I am saying. I was raised by 2 working parents and don't think I turned out all that bad. It is your choice and I believe it is a choice you and your spouse need to make and both agree on. I firmly believe you are a better mom if you are happily working then if you are miserably "stuck" at home with the kids all day. I don't even know what to say about the moms who want to be home but for financial reasons can't. I can say when I started to stay home the salary I was leaving would have just barely began to cover child care so it was easy to say well no reason to make the money if the only reason we need it is to sign the check and hand it over to the daycare.

It did mean sacrifices, we lived the first year in our house with no Internet, home phone, cable/satellite TV, and with the only items in our home that we purchased ourselves being our bed and couches. We didn't live a glamorous life but we lived a happy one. And still do.

Now thanks to some answers to prayer and good budgeting on our part we have Internet. Yup that's what changed. We have a little more in the bank and a chance to get to send our older daughter to pre-school for 2 mornings a week this fall. Still no cable/satellite TV, no new furniture, no home phone. But happiness is in abundance around here, and I couldn't ask for more.

Thursday, May 5, 2011

Ice all over... but mom called it jelly

Well I was going to wait till tomorrow to tackle my first real blog post. But maybe it is the fact that the dryer is still drying my pjs (you'll know why soon), or the fact that my husband is off at an Elder Board meeting, but I have my laptop on and really just want to start (I trust I can find something to say tomorrow if I want). 

So here’s what happened. All 4 hampers in the house are full as of last night. So this morning I know that laundry is on the agenda (or gender if you ask my almost 4 year old) for today. Also on the agenda is a trip to the library for story time. I was so proud of myself I got the 1st load of laundry in the wash before we left the house so it would be ready to move when we returned home. Well it was but I also had a hungry 5 month old to feed but figured let her fuss a little more and I’ll move this so that I can keep the laundry moving all day.

However, I was totally stumped when I opened up the washer and picked up the 1st item of clothing and it was cover in this funny gel like substance. It took a few seconds (though really not long) to figure out that a diaper had gone through the wash. I have to say I’m surprised that it didn’t happen sooner (I made it almost 4 years). But that was in fact what happened though it was a pull up that my 4 year old accidently put in the hamper not the trash.

I had no idea what to do, but luckily I still had a crying baby upstairs to tend to so I sat down to feed her and opened up my laptop and googled “Diaper in the Washing Machine” Then to my rescue came a blog from someone with some experience in this area.

I then spent an hour shaking (outside) each piece of clothing from the top and bottom, then turning them inside out and shanking from the top and bottom and turning them back right side out. While in the meantime was running a rinse cycle in the washer before wiping out any gel that was left. Then I got to rewash the load and then dry it. Well everything turned out fine. But would you believe my back and arms are soar from all the shaking?

Well here how to list on dealing with the cleanup (took me about 1 ½ hours to do)

1.      Don’t scream… You’ll wake the baby (I stole that from the blog I read).

      2.      DON’T dry your clothes.

3.      Wear protective eye wear those little gel beads will fly EVERYWHERE.

4.      Shake clothes off outside.

5.      Shake items from the top than bottom, turn inside out and repeat, and turn them back right side out and give a final shake.

6.      Shake out your hair before you go back inside and brush off our clothes.

7.      Wipe out the washer after a rinse all the gel will be at the bottom and pretty messy.

8.      Wash and dry the load of clothes again.

9.      Change your clothes there are drying or already dry pieces of the diaper everywhere on your clothes too.


So this experience today is what made me start my blog. I can’t help but share these experiences and I’m glad that I am now able to laugh about this (that didn’t take long). I guess it isn't hard to laugh at when you hear this, "Daddy I got ice all over my clothes when a pull up went in the washer, but mom called it jelly... yeah that's what she said." From the mouth of my 4 year old I kid you not.

Welcome

For a long time now (well at least a year) I have thought about starting a blog. I guess if it comes right down to why start a blog it is because I love to share my life with people. Those of you who know me well probably know I love to talk, and I love to share stories of my life. Well that’s what I will do here.

The title of my blog is My Life of Loves. Why? Well that is simple. I don’t have a particular topic that I will center my blog around; it will really be a little bit of everything in my life that I love. So one post might be on marriage and my wonderful husband, others on my kids or the other areas of my life that I love like sewing, baking, scrapbooking and doing laundry (yup I have some things to say about laundry).  

So the title, My Life of Loves, basically says that this blog will be about things in my life that I love. This is a little scary to think about starting but here I go anyway.

Cheers to having some fun!